Dear Mademoiselle X

Jan 11, 2011 by Mademoiselle X

Dear Mademoiselle X,

I use my vibrator so much that I can’t have an orgasm when my husband and I have sex. What should I do?

Slave to the Vibrator

Dear Slave to the Vibrator,

Trust me, you’re not the first or the last wife to run into this issue. What can we say… sometimes that bunny knows more about what we need than we do ourselves!

First things first. That vibrator might be great at getting you off, but it’s not really what you turn to for cuddling and foreplay, and really, it’s not that great at telling the odd kinky story or two. So let’s not write off the husband completely quite yet.

The secret here is to get the best of both worlds working together. Enjoy the foreplay, the closeness, and the intimacy with your husband, and then, at the crucial moment, whip out your favorite vibrator and let it join in the fun. I’ve done a little research and I’ve yet to hear from a man who felt threatened by the presence of sex toys in the bedroom. In fact, quite the opposite is true, especially since the vibrations heighten his pleasure too.

Worried your man will be upset that you’ve been having a little too much fun on the side? Play dumb. Pretend a friend told you how much she and her husband love playing with her vibrator and talk him into getting you one. He never needs to know about the five already resting in your bedside drawer.

MX