How To Choose Your First Sex Toy

Grab a pen and paper gals. Let’s talk toys.

Spend 15 minutes on the internet and you’ll find thousands and thousands of sex toys available for purchase.  From basic to outrageous, there’s something for everyone.

In 2010 many media outlets reported that Victoria Beckham had been given a $1.8 Million diamond encrusted vibrator. What the what?  Turns out, that story was wholly untrue, however, who wouldn’t want a DIAMOND encrusted vibrator?

If you are going to put a toy close to or inside your vagina,  wouldn’t a bejeweled B.O.B. do the trick?

Purchasing a sex toy is an intensely personal decision.  Options range from $5 to, well, $1.8 million or more.  While your budget may vary, toy mechanics are fairly similar and the variations you’ll find are length, girth, intensity of vibration, clitoral stimulation and the material toys are made of.

Each woman’s body is different and I encourage you to explore your intimate side as sex toys can be a part of a healthy sexual appetite, with or without a partner.

First decide what you want. There are three basic types of sex toys: Bullets, Vibrators and Dildos.  

To Insert or Not to Insert?  That’s often a question I’m asked in my consultation room when I host sex-toy parties.

Bullets make a great starter toy.  A small vibrating bullet or egg-shaped toy is placed against the clitoris or the labia for vibration.  Many bullets have variable intensities from low to high and can be adjusted with push button or dial.

Many women are cautious when choosing their first sex toy and are not necessarily looking for one that can be inserted into the vagina.  The whole point of a vibrator is to achieve orgasm, so you don’t always need one that can be inserted.

Example: This is the Pulse Toy.  With 10 vibration levels, this bullet has a setting even the most stubborn clitoris can like.  Experts say up to 90% of women need some type of stimulation on the clitoris to achieve orgasm, and a bullet vibrator is the perfect choice for a first toy.  Plus, it’s small, easy to use, and tuck away.

To Buzz or Not to Buzz?  The distinct difference between a vibrator and a dildo is vibration.  Dildo’s do not vibrate.  Often, they are solid, penis shaped toys that are used to stimulate the vaginal canal and not necessarily elicit orgasm.  They are an excellent to pair with a bullet or egg if you do not want a toy that vibrates inside the vagina as well.  More and more, dildo’s are being made of glass (Pyrex glass to be exact).  Beautiful works of art, ranging from smooth to very bumpy, a glass dildo has many uses.  Glass can be heated up or cooled down.  It can be used to bump against the G Spot and help a woman to achieve a G Spot Orgasm.

Example: This is the Inked Toy.  It has a design, similar to a tattoo and is very popular.  With two different ends, you can try out whether or not you prefer a single large head or many ridges and bumps.  The first 1 to 3″ inside the vaginal canal is the only area with concentrated nerve endings, so the side with many ridges can create quite an intense sensation when gently inserted and removed during play.  Heat a glass toy up in warm water or cool it down in cold water or ice, you will find mixing up the sensations will help you decide on what you like the best.

 A Vibrator is one that vibrates either at the tip of the toy for G Spot stimulation or at the base of the toy for clitoral stimulation.  There are several materials used in vibrators.  The top two are thermoplastic Rubber and Silicone.  Both have the look and feel of real skin.  Both are phalate free.

Example: The Plush Bendy is water-resistant.  So if the only place you can have any privacy is in the bath or shower, a water-resistant toy is worth the investment.  This toy bends at the base so you can adjust how you hold it for comfort and for maximum pleasure and stimulation.  Equipped with a microchip, this toy remembers your favorite vibrational setting.  No more fumbling with the buttons to find that  pulsing vibration you loved so much the other evening.  This type of toy is a good choice for the gal that wants vibration without stimulation on the clitoris.

Other options include:

Thumb and Finger vibrators add and external stimulation for the clitoris.  They are designed to provide a woman with the feeling of a penis in the vaginal canal and stimulate the clitoris at the same time.  There are those with dual action stimulation for the vagina and G-Spot along with clitoral stimulation.

The Cosmo Bunny is provides a combination of vaginal stimulation and clitoral stimulation.  It’s phalate free and designed with a Japanese motor, plus it’s waterproof and warms quickly to body temperature.

A Rabbit or rabbit-style toy is a popular bedside companion.  The rotating beads add extra stimulation, increasing a woman’s orgasm length as the vaginal muscles contract during orgasm and continue to be stimulated by the rotating beads.

Choosing your first toy may be overwhelming.

But, with a bit of research, selecting one  can be a lot of fun.

Whether you need light subtle stimulation or deep intense vibration, there is something out there for everyone.

Find that one girlfriend that is willing to do anything with you and bring her along!

Ask for recommendations.  Go to a sex toy party!

Sex toys are mainstream and finding the right one for you will be a fun adventure!

All the toys in the above article and more, can be found at or you can email Natalie directly at for a personal consultation.



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'How To Choose Your First Sex Toy' have 6 comments

  1. August 7, 2012 @ 7:07 pm Steph

    I love my rabbit!!

  2. August 7, 2012 @ 7:14 pm natalie

    Rabbits are the most successful selling sex toys of all time. They come in an amazing variety of intensity, length, girth and everything a girl could want. Yay for Rabbits!!

  3. August 7, 2012 @ 8:17 pm Linn

    Rabbits are one of the more fun ones — a great ‘starter’ toy. Also remember, your partner! He will most likely enjoy them too. Get creative with how you use your toys — your partner (male or female) won’t complain!

  4. August 8, 2012 @ 8:10 am Mitch

    Okay, am I the only one still curled up in the fetal position at the idea of a diamond-encrusted vibrator??

  5. August 8, 2012 @ 9:56 am Chanize

    Well, because I like anything sparkly, I would love to have one. But, it would be like my great-grandmother’s living room furniture, only for display. Never to sit on! LOL

  6. August 8, 2012 @ 10:46 am Mitch

    Under glass, on display. What a conversation piece!

    “Uh, is that…?”

    “Why, yes! Yes, it is. Isn’t it lovely?”

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