One topic that raises some eyebrows: Going In Through the Out Door
You know, anal sex.
My husband insists I brought up the topic to him after reading about it. Yes, I was the initiator, not him.
It didn’t seem gross to me, just another position to try. After being married 7 years, you get the itch for something different, you know? So I asked him if he wanted to try it. It didn’t take him a second to say yes or get aroused by the thought of the act. He immediately got out the stash of K-Y and slathered it all over himself.
I got my vibrator out and started to use it on my clitoris. I reasoned that it may take away any discomfort from behind. And I was partially right. It helped. But I won’t lie to you. It hurt the first time, and the second.
My husband is well-endowed, but honestly, I think even a finger would have been uncomfortable the first few minutes of that first time.
Subsequent tries usually happened while I was drunk and relaxed.
My tip? Relaxation is KEY.
And I always use my vibrator. After many times, I had what I call my first anal orgasm and it was mind blowing!
Now when I hear women say nothing goes “in there”, I want to laugh at them and sit them down and give them pointers.
When people say it’s gross because it’s where poop comes out, I ask if they have sex during their period. That usually shuts them up.
The most important things to remember are:
Use gobs of lube on the penis. WetNaturals.com makes good, sugar-free intimacy gels that are non-greasy and paraben-free.
Stimulate the clitoris simultaneously
(Oh, and a few of shots of liquid courage won’t hurt either)
Knock, knock! Guess who’s coming in!