Anal Sex: In Through The “Out” Door

One topic that raises some eyebrows: Going In Through the Out Door

You know, anal sex.

My husband insists I brought up the topic to him after reading about it. Yes, I was the initiator, not him.

It didn’t seem gross to me, just another position to try. After being married 7 years, you get the itch for something different, you know? So I asked him if he wanted to try it. It didn’t take him a second to say yes or get aroused by the thought of the act. He immediately got out the  stash of K-Y and slathered it all over himself.

I got my vibrator out and started to use it on my clitoris. I reasoned that it may take away any discomfort from behind. And I was partially right. It helped. But I won’t lie to you. It hurt the first time, and the second.

My husband is well-endowed, but honestly, I think even a finger would have been uncomfortable the first few minutes of that first time.

Subsequent tries usually happened while I was drunk and relaxed.

My tip? Relaxation is KEY.

And I always use my vibrator. After many times, I had what I call my first anal orgasm and it was mind blowing! 

Now when I hear women say  nothing goes “in there”, I want to laugh at them and sit them down and give them pointers.

When people say it’s gross because it’s where poop comes out, I ask if they have sex during their period. That usually shuts them up.

The most important things to remember are:

Use gobs of lube on the penis. makes good, sugar-free intimacy gels that are non-greasy and paraben-free.

Stimulate the clitoris simultaneously

(Oh, and a few of shots of liquid courage won’t hurt either)

Knock, knock! Guess who’s coming in!

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'Anal Sex: In Through The “Out” Door' have 7 comments

  1. July 3, 2012 @ 8:08 pm Brenda

    I have always wondered — how do you not get poop on the penis? Or is it unavoidable and just something that happens? Such as mentioned above, if you have sex during your period you get blood on the penis? Do you keep wipies by the bed to wipe him off afterwards? LOL Sorry, I’ve always been curious.

  2. July 3, 2012 @ 8:35 pm Chanize

    I’m hoping the author weighs in, but I know some people do take enemas in preparation if they think they’re going to go “there”. However, according to this link from the McKinley Health Center at the University of Illinois Institute that discusses the ins and outs (forgive the pun) of anal sex, “feces are not normally stored in the rectum except just prior to a bowel movement.”

  3. July 3, 2012 @ 11:01 pm Prudence

    no way no how. same goes for period sex

  4. July 4, 2012 @ 1:33 am Brenda

    Interesting — thanks Chanize! My cheeks puckered up when I read about fisting on that page you linked to. The whole forearm?! yikes!! LOL

  5. July 4, 2012 @ 8:29 pm ILikeIt

    Lube and relaxation are key, and sometimes it helps to prime the chute so to speak with a toy or a condom covered finger. It’s not uncommon for the skin’s natural salts to sting a bit so for first timers or those with tender tushies use a small toy or condom covered finger to relax the outer sphincter and get used to the sensation.

    Anal orgasms are awesome, doubly so if you aim for and hit the G spot from inside the rectum. Absolute trust between partners is huge too. If you say stop, it must stop, if you say slow and gentle then that needs to be honored. It’s not something to rush into or through at all.

    Glass toys can be put in the freezer or ice-water prior to play and have a soothing effect on the rectal tissues. For those with partners whose penis is on the long side, you need to go even more slowly to see how far in he will be able to go before he hits that 2nd sphincter (there are two). Once he does then you need to go slowly again and let that sphincter open and relax before getting down with serious booty dancing. Also, angle can be important, so literally going at it doggie style can be the best position for newcomers.

  6. July 6, 2012 @ 9:16 am Kathybat

    It should be made clear to partners – this is the last thing you do and then it’s off to wash! Without proper care, a woman could easily end up with a UTI from this. No double dipping or dragging it around afterwards till it’s been washed!

  7. July 8, 2012 @ 9:03 pm Not my real name

    I was all, nope, never gonna happen, ever. Then I started seeing someone who zomg, he’s amazing. He suggested we try and I love it. Now i’m like “why aren’t you in my ass?”

    Try it, relax. Have fun.

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