Why Women Fake Orgasms

It’s late, you’re tired and had too much to drink. Or, you’ve eaten too much Chinese food and feeling gassy. Yet, your partner is giving the signal that he is in the mood. Seriously? Rather than telling the one you’re with “not tonight, hon”, you perform.

But you know you aren’t going to make it to the big, earth-shattering ‘O’.

You’ll do what so many of us have done (or still do), just to save face for both of you.

You’ll fake the orgasm.

Now, as much as we know you hate it, research shows that 60% of women regularly fake orgasm during lovemaking.

And did you know that nearly 30% of men fake orgasm, as well?

Both men and women have similar reasons for this:

– They fear their own insecurities.
– Fear of intimacy.
– They want to please their partner.
– They really weren’t in the mood.
– They want to expedite the process.
– They are on medication that dulls the senses.

We want our partner to believe we are satisfied rather than admitting we weren’t able to achieve orgasm. But what men don’t understand is that for women, it’s not always about having the orgasm, it’s about the entire act before it. It’s about that sexual journey. The foreplay.

Many women fake it because they feel they are enhancing the experience. A turned on woman turns the man on, or so we women figure. The more we writhe with pleasure, the more excited our man gets and, we hope, the more powerful his orgasm.

Women have an easier time climaxing when they are making love with someone they are intimately connected with. I can vouch for that. I don’t fake orgasms anymore. I have no need to now, but in the past, I did. A lot. Nothing to be embarrassed about. It happens.

It seems, however, that constant faking it can have a negative impact on the relationship on many levels. Working on communication and intimacy can help overcome the need to always fake orgasms and bring on real waves to ride.

Shout it out! What makes you fake it? 

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'Why Women Fake Orgasms' have 5 comments

  1. June 8, 2012 @ 1:09 pm Mitchtress

    LOL, I used to fake them with a couple of exes just to get him to have one and get it over with!

  2. June 8, 2012 @ 1:24 pm Brenda

    I don’t fake them anymore, but there were times I used to simply because it was clear to me that I wasn’t going to have one (for whatever reason) and I wanted the person to just stop trying (it seemed like it was a competition — I *have to make her come!) and get on with things. Kind of like Mitch said.

    But I am curious — how does a man get by with faking one? Wouldn’t that mean absence of come? Wouldn’t that be easy to detect? Most men I know will go on and on and on until they get that O. LOL

  3. June 8, 2012 @ 8:54 pm Chanize

    Brenda, you’re in luck..we’ll be discussing the Fake Male O this month! It’s a fascinating subject.

  4. July 24, 2012 @ 11:06 am Sasha

    I’ve never faked it. I can’t come through intercourse alone and I make sure that the men know this. It’s not a big deal.

  5. July 26, 2012 @ 8:28 am Chanize

    Sasha, I think the stats say that it’s rare for a woman to have a pure vaginal orgasm anyway. Yet, what we are learning from YWGB, is that so many women are still reluctant to talk about sex to other WOMEN, so we’re not sure if they are even conveying their sexual needs to men. There’s still a great amount of discomfort around this subject and we’d like to help change that.

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